That @$&# This Moment

Have you ever had the experience of asking, begging, pleading with someone to stop doing something for ages and they ignored you? Then, one day without rhyme or reason they just stopped!

That was the situation with a partner I had. Nothing, no argument - scientific or otherwise - would convince him to stop smoking. Just about everyone in the family tried to no avail. Then, right after one Christmas holiday, he just upped and quit. No forewarning, no weaning, cold turkey and never looked back.

I have seen people do that countless of times. With no seeming external pressure able to convince them, one day out of the blue they get up and do it! That "it" can be anything. Smoking, learning a trade, riding a horse again, swimming or just live a "straight and narrow" life.

What propels them is motivation, self motivation. That "to hell with this" force comes from deep within and whether anyone agrees with their when or how, they are moving full stream ahead.

"When you do what you fear most, then you can do anything." Stephen Richards 

Fear is most often the emotion pinning one down to a habitual behavior. It might be fear of gaining weight should you stop smoking, fear of failure if you step out and start your own business or fear of another heartbreak should you agree to move in with a long distance lover.

"One day your soul just opens up," wrote Iyanla Vanzant and you simply, quietly and without fanfare say "Yes!" It matters not if you gain weight. There is a gym for that. If the business crashes, MacDonald's is your favourite fast food corporation and they are hiring. Living with Johnny turns out to be a nightmare. Then you go tour the countryside and teach English as a Second Language.

You wake up one day and stop asking yourself the "what if it doesn't ..." questions. Instead, you say loudly and boldly, "So what if it doesn't!" 

Before I leave this Earth plane, all the stories of my screw ups will be detailed. The thing that I am most proud of in all these stories and those still to come? I truly did and continue to do it my way - with or without company!

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Continue to be blessed and ride the wave!