Too C.U.T.E. To Settle

I am one of the crazy ones, a weirdo; a dark skinned Pollyana.

I drank the kool aid of positivity.

I am one of the C.U.T.E. ones.

Waking up every morning, I lie in my bed for as long as possible and tell myself how grateful and blessed I am. My bed is not the most luxurious. My bedroom, in fact my entire house, is sparsely furnished. Yet, my feelings of abundance, prosperity and gratitude is enormous and increase every day.

Married several times and divorced an equal amount of times, I think I will be single for the rest of this journey. Unless they make it legal to marry yourself. See, I am not sure there is another human being in this very vast Universe who can share my journey with me better than I can. Some have attempted, others simply walked away. I am grateful to both as they led me to a deeper relationship with Me.

My current job is no where as demanding, high powered or high browed as some that I have had in the past. Yet, I am so grateful for it. When I returned to Canada, I was very clear about the responsibilities that I was not willing to entertain in a job. Knowing that I wanted to work on DOS Foundation, my coaching endeavours and my writing, I asked for a job that would allow for the kind of work-life balance necessary. Thankfully, I got it.

I am living my best life ever AND it gets better every day! To live any other way would be settling.

1. A house full of furniture and expensive adornments would require hours cleaning and hundreds on insurance. Nope, I would rather sail the high seas!
2. A relationship that requires my undivided attention, mollycoddling, housekeeping services and nightly "entertainment" - Nope, not for me.
3. A job that keeps me in the underbelly, the shadow of society, artificially responsible for the freedom of others - like my last high-paying one - no thank you! Any job that follows me home, filling my mind with politics and increasing my heart rate - Nope, I do not want it or need it.

Mandy Hale is absolutely correct when she wrote, "Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake and help us see we are worth so much more than we're settling for."

It was not one but a series of heartbreaks that finally woke me up. The last one, to the little piece of a heart that I had left, was when I realized that I am C.U.T.E. and have no need or desire to settle.

With less house, less stuff, less work responsibilities, less  (to no) relationship troubles - I have more:

• Me
• Time for things that make my heart sing
• Love

Now, with the blessing of my first grandchild, Mahalia, I am so grateful for having not settled in any way as I also have more caring to give to her, my daughter and the world.

What about you? Have you settled in anyway? Need support in "unsettling" so that you can soar? Send me an email and visit my professional page for tips, suggestions and guides.

Be blessed and free yourself today!









 

Settle For What? Question #29

I love my job; meaning the one that pays my bills. There are other activities that takes way more of my time than my "day job," but those do not pay me a salary of any size. Those are my calling, my service and my purpose.

When I returned to Canada in April of this year, my intention was to settle for any type of work that paid enough to keep a roof over my head, some food in my tummy and, most importantly, allowed me to stash away money to go back to Jamaica this winter.

Settle. That was what I was prepared to do; settle for any job despite my abundance of qualification and experience.

Two things happened - Life and Lia.

I remember praying as another résumé was about to be sent. The advertisement was about to end that weekend and I hesitated to submit my application , thinking that they must have found a suitable candidate by then.

That was Saturday and on the Monday afternoon as I was exiting the car with my daughter to go in for her 3D ultrasound, my phone rang. By the following Wednesday, I assumed my current position - one of the greatest and most fulfilling jobs that I have ever had!

On July 1, Canada Day, Mahalia, Li-Li or Kitten, whichever of her many names you prefer, arrived. My decision was made soon after to resettle in Canada so that I can enjoy this beautiful little girl while I provide service to one of the greatest nonprofit organizations in Edmonton, Alberta.

Love and Service.

That is my response to today's Question, "Are you settling for something?"

What about you? Share with us here or on our Facebook page and have a great rest of the evening!